Bloggers Delight!

I would just like to alert you all to a new radio show that I’m involved in.  Bloggers Delight is a new weekly radio debate show on Bang 103.6FM, and it brings together a varying group of the UK’s “Bloggerati” and social commentators, who together have a wealth of experience in the media.

We discuss any and every topic stemming stories in the news that week, to things people  see on their daily travels, and the discussions and debates are as comedic as they are controversial!  Imagine the setting to be that of a barbershop or hair salon… any and everything goes!

The show is hosted by Miss Lala and Mr Silk, and panel consists of:

 Yogi Bear – www.abigmansperspective.blogspot.com

Simone Push – www.thepushmusings.com

Michelle Shanti – www.fantasyride.blogspot.com

Lisa Bent – www.deeperthantwitter.blogspot.com

Yinka ‘Vex in the City’ – www.vexinthecity.com

Ronke ‘Ondolady’ Adeyemi – www.themusingsofondolady.blogspot.com

Keysha ‘Ms Quiche’ Davis – www.thecocoadiaries.wordpress.com

Jimmy Swagger – www.twitter.com/_Swaggerville  

Amber Phresh – www.phresh-mentality.com

Ms Brown Eyez – www.brown-eyez.com

Marvin Sparks – www.marvinsparks.blogspot.com

Marvin Harrison – http://www.facebook.com/awkwardstar 

Pleepd – www.pleepd.com

DJ Skinz – www.myspace.com/deejayskinz

Tune in to Bloggers Delight every Wednesday 6pm-7pm on Bang 103.6FM or www.bangradio.fm for the fun and frolics!  If you should happen to miss the show (for reasons that better be good) you can listen to all the shows on the Bloggers Delight website: www.bloggers-delight.com  It’s an awfully snazzy website, where you can also read all our profiles and exactly why we qualify to be panellists!

Battle of the Sexes: Should straight men wear cosmetics?

Wendi Writes:

The only reason a straight man should wear cosmetics is if he suffers from vitiligo or any other medical reason that would affect how he feels about his looks, and even then my choices for them are limited, otherwise… IT’S MY JOB TO LEAVE FOUNDATION ON A MAN’S SHIRT, NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND!!

Just to be clear, I have no problem with men using lotions and moisturisers to keep their skin conditioned – there’s nothing nice about dry skin on any sex.  By cosmetics I’m referring to actual make-up.  Nowadays there are so many straight guys wearing eyeliner and I don’t understand it.  Fair enough it highlights their eyes a little, but why should a man care about that?  A man shouldn’t want to look pretty.  Again – that’s my job!  I can completely understand when celebrity males have to wear make-up for television appearances, by all means, but it doesn’t need to extend further than that.

While browsing the worldwide web I came across this very topic on a forum, and the comments were quite interesting.  It was mostly males commenting (a lot of whom felt the need to confirm that they weren’t gay) and some were saying that they wear either foundation, concealer or tinted moisturiser to disguise the marks and scars left by acne and acne related spots.  Now… I understand that men can feel crap about the condition of their skin as much as women can, but I don’t think they need to go as far as wearing foundation.  Tinted moisturiser I can handle… I think.  But sometimes I can be a bit of an old school traditionalist ( if yer like), and I think that men should be men and just look past these things and see them as the battle scars in the war of life!  Ok… sounds a bit silly, but you understand what I mean right? Leave being pretty to the ladies.

We live in an age where new words and names are being invented to keep up with the ever changing times.  One of these words is ‘Metrosexual’, which basically describes a man who likes to take care of his appearance – a trait usually associated with homosexuals, but in this case it is a way of saying: “I care about the way I look, but I’m not gay.”  Personally I think it’s silly for people to suggest that if, as a man, you keep yourself neat, then it means you fancy other men, but hey.  I like a man to look after himself by bathing every day, keeping his hair in a neat style, shaving or neatening his moustache, beard or goatee regularly (I’ve realised I am a sucker for facial hair), wearing clean and stylish clothing, and believe it or not – I wouldn’t even mind a man having a  manicure, because long dirty fingernails are a complete turn-off.  Is all that not enough for a man to be getting on with to make him comfortable with his appearance??

Pete Wentz

Lanrizzle writes:

I take pride in my appearance.  I probably take more time in the bathroom than I should.  I don’t leave the house without applying a layer of cocoa butter and I brush my hair, despite it rarely ever being longer than 0.1 of an inch.  Hell, I’ve even had a few dalliances with texturizer in my time.  Excessive?  Not really.  Believe it or not, some of us guys like to take pride in our appearance.  Sometimes there’s a lot of thought that goes into that designer stubble, or those perfectly locked-in waves (obtained through that wave cap). However, there are some things that I can’t, I mean CAN’T understand – guys wearing make-up.  I guess in the cold light of day and the harsh glare of the world, makeup is primarily a female territory. Your average guy wearing makeup has the same connotations as a guy wearing a dress. Er… bruv, what are you doing?

Don’t get me wrong, there are the exceptions to the makeup thing.  The obvious ones like MJ (RIP), Prince, Goths (even though they scare the hell out of me), Krumpers in clown make-up. Basically, if you are getting ready to perform on stage, go ahead. Knock yourself out. Go crazy with that guy-liner and man-scara.

Prince... and his 'guy-liner'

Maverick, 24 from South London says, “There are only a few guys who can cross that line. The David Bowie line. In order [for a straight guy] to wear make-up, you need to exude a certain confidence. You can’t fake crossing that line”.

I guess the thing that should be asked is why, as a straight guy, would you need or want to wear make-up?  Do we really want attention so badly that the only way to do it is to go into your girl’s bathroom cabinet and take her blusher?  I guess if something becomes fashionable then there’s always going to be a justification for it, and attitudes do change.  I mean, if I’d told Marvin from JLS 10 years ago that he’d be wearing his mother’s low neck t-shirts and pixie boots onstage in front of millions of screaming fans, he probably would have laughed in my face (not at the screaming fans bit; the women’s t-shirt thing – stay focused).

I’m not against fashion and progression – far from it.  In fact, I even embrace it.  But I think there are some things that need to stay separate between the two sexes, and an androgynous society is surely not the way forward.  There was a brief (and I mean brief) period in the 80s where guys and girls looked very similar.  I can’t begin to imagine the confusion, but suffice to say that moment in time was fleeting and people began to realise that there are some things that guys shouldn’t do.

Let’s face facts – straight guys are looking for women, and the majority of women aren’t looking for a guy who spends more time in the mirror than they do.  So let’s all just agree that for the time being.  Guys – have a shave, use some moisturiser, spray some aftershave… But if you feel yourself slowly gravitating towards that MAC shop, have a quick word with yourself and leave the foundation to the females.

If you’d like to hear more of what Lanrizzle has to say, follow his blog at http://l-trainsmind.blogspot.com

Being a Stay-At-Home Dad

All too often we hear about men who are deadbeat dads, those who only send pittance in child support once the CSA have caught up with them, or those who don’t even recognise the children they have created.  If there are positive stories, they usually come in the form of men who are trying to get to know their children, but are being denied access, and a few about rare single fathers.  But there is another type of dad we should celebrate as we hear almost nothing about them, and that is the stay-at-home dad.

As reported in The Guardian online in June, Britain has around 600,000 stay-at-home dads, and more who freelance or work part-time to help look after their children.  Richard Huie is one such dad, and here he describes a typical day caring for his two-and-a-half year old daughter, in a role that is predominantly seen as a mother’s job.

“Originally I decided that I would quit my full time job and be a stay at home dad.  However when I went and gave in my notice, my boss suggested part time work to give me the best balance and to keep my foot in.  Financially it was better that I was at home to look after Leo, our daughter, full time.  My partner and I both strongly felt that we wanted one of us to be there to bring up Leo, as we wanted to have a child and not just pass her into childcare.  After the offer of part time work, we also decided that Leo would benefit from a day and a half at nursery purely for social reasons.

“On a typical day I get up at around 7am, either by myself or woken by Leo.  We get washed and dressed and go downstairs for breakfast.  Usually breakfast is followed by art activities, gardening or straight out for shopping.  We don’t do a “big” shop but shop daily in small batches.  We usually have lunch by 11.30/ 12pm, unless we go swimming, which we do on a weekly basis.  If there are no plans for meeting friends, Leo will have a nap for 1.5 – 2 hours max.  This allows me to do the cleaning, washing, cooking and ironing.  Depending on what time Leo gets up, we’ll try and make the 1 o’clock club or the park.  We try to meet friends after the park/ 1 o’clock club till late in the afternoon or just on our own.  We would have cycled somewhere so would need to cycle back during the late afternoon.  This also gives me an opportunity to catch up with shopping.

“If we arrive home in the earlier parts of the afternoon and there isn’t any food cooked, I’ll cook from fresh, otherwise we’ll get back by about 6pm for dinner.  I try to ensure that Leo has dinner by 6.30, so that we can have a bath from around 7pm.  Leo has a daily bath due to her eczema with a special bath oil. It’s good to allow her to have a soak for a while.  Usually Julia, my partner, is home between 7.20pm and 7.40pm, so I’ll aim to keep Leo up so she can give her the bath and get her ready for bed.  I like to ensure that Leo is in bed by about 8pm, so that Julia can get some time in the evening with her.  Once Leo is asleep I’ll clean the bath, wash up and tidy up.  By 9pm I’m knackered and will enjoy wasting away on the couch!

“It’s a pleasure to be able to do what I do.  I get to sit and be a central part of her growth.  I see her changing and developing daily which is an amazing privilege.  I feel it’s important to do stuff.  If I didn’t then I’d find it really tough.  I try to ensure that we get out each day and do something.  There are many things to do from walks in the park, museums, 1 o’clock clubs, cycling places and getting around the shops.  I strongly feel that a regular routine helps us both get through the day.  Simple activities like painting, coloring, digging, role-play and reading help.  Things like this make me feel really pleased that we organized it, so that I can spend so much time with Leo.  Time with your kid is priceless!

“I definitely feel that other people look at me and question my role as a ‘man’, but it doesn’t make me feel any less of a man.  The doctor recently asked: “Where is the mother? How come you always bring her?” A couple of our local shop keepers have also asked.  Some women look at me with concern in their eyes like I’m just about to do something totally wrong.  Countless questioning eyes and opinions from health workers delving into a situation wondering how like how I can best assess the health of Leo.  I get random women on the street telling me to make sure I do this or that.  Most people seem to be jealous and very envious of my time and relationship with Leo.  Many don’t realise just how challenging a day is, mainly non-parents, and think that all I do is chill and relax.

“I would 100% recommend other dads to experience being a stay-at-home dad.  We have kids to have kids.  From my early experiences, children change on a daily basis and so many changes are easily missed.  I look ahead and see that in a year’s time, by the time Leo is at full time school, I can get back to working full time.  Being part of her early experiences, I feel that I really know my child.”

Who Remembers… ‘Regulate’ – Warren G and Nate Dogg!

This song brings back memories school days, the days when I really really enjoyed hip-hop and music in general.  It was the first time I’d heard of either artist, and I thought Warren G was very cute, and everyone who didn’t already know was like, “Wow, he’s Dr Dre‘s brother!”

Now I’m featuring this today, because I want you to listen to the words of the song, and afterwards I would like you to read the translation below found on Wikipedia.  It’s basically ‘Regulate For Dummies’!

On a cool, clear night (typical to Southern California) Warren G travels through his neighbourhood, searching for women with whom he might initiate sexual intercourse. He has chosen to engage in this pursuit alone.

Nate Dogg, having just arrived in Long Beach, seeks Warren. On his way to find Warren, Nate passes a car full of women who are excited to see him. Regardless, he insists to the women that there is no cause for excitement.

Warren makes a left turn at 21st Street and Lewis Ave, where he sees a group of young men enjoying a game of dice together. He parks his car and greets them. He is excited to find people to play with, but to his chagrin, he discovers they intend to relieve him of his material possessions. Once the hopeful robbers reveal their firearms, Warren realizes he is in a less than favorable predicament.

Meanwhile, Nate passes the women, as they are low on his list of priorities. His primary concern is locating Warren. After curtly casting away the strumpets (whose interest in Nate was such that they crashed their automobile), he serendipitously stumbles upon his friend, Warren G, being held up by the young miscreants.

Warren, unaware that Nate is surreptitiously observing the scene unfold, is in disbelief that he’s being robbed. The perpetrators have taken jewelry and a name brand designer watch from Warren, who is so incredulous that he asks what else the robbers intend to steal. This is most likely a rhetorical question.

Observing these unfortunate proceedings, Nate realizes that he may have to use his firearm to deliver his friend from harm.

The tension crescendos as the robbers point their guns to Warren’s head. Warren senses the gravity of his situation.  He cannot believe the events unfolding could happen in his own neighborhood.  As he imagines himself in a fantastical escape, he catches a glimpse of his friend, Nate.

Nate has seventeen cartridges to expend (sixteen residing in the pistol’s magazine, with a solitary round placed in the chamber and ready to be fired) on the group of robbers, and he uses many of them. Afterward, he generously shares the credit for neutralizing the situation with Warren, though it is clear that Nate did all of the difficult work. Putting congratulations aside, Nate quickly reminds himself that he has committed multiple homicides to save Warren before letting his friend know that there are females nearby if he wishes to fornicate with them.

Warren recalls that it was the promise of copulation that coaxed him away from his previous activities, and is thankful that Nate knows a way to satisfy these urges.

Nate quickly finds the women who earlier crashed their car on Nate’s account. He remarks to one that he is fond of her physical appeal. The woman, impressed by Nate’s singing ability, asks that he and Warren allow her and her friends to share transportation. Soon, both friends are driving with automobiles full of women to the East Side Motel, presumably to consummate their flirtation in an orgy.

The third verse is more expository, with Warren and Nate explaining their G Funk musical style.  Nate displays his bravado by claiming that individuals with equivalent knowledge could not even attempt to approach his level of lyrical mastery. He also notes that if any third party smokes as he does, they would find themselves in a state of intoxication daily (from Nate’s other works, it can be inferred that the substance referenced is marijuana). Nate concludes his delineation of the night by issuing a vague threat to “busters,” suggesting that he and Warren will further “regulate” any potential incidents in the future (presumably by engaging their enemies with small arms fire).

Is that not hilarious???